John Michael Oxner

Born: Sat., Jul. 20, 1968
Died: Mon., May 15, 2017


5:00 PM to 7:00 PM, Fri., May 19, 2017
Location: Silas F. Richardson & Son, Inc.

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CLIFFSIDE, NJ---John Michael Oxner, 48, resident of Cliffside, NJ, died unexpectedly on Monday, May 15, 2017.

He was born on July 20, 1968, in Memphis, TN, to Nancy (Grimley) Oxner of Leominster, MA, and Fred H. Oxner of Memphis, TN. He attended Thomas More College with a focus on theology and had a variety of career experiences including Cincinnati Bank, Proctor & Gamble, Bose, and Heartland Dentistry. His natural talents and gifts were counseling, guiding, mentoring and inspiring his fellow man.

He was a sign language interpreter for the Cincinnati Gay Men’s Choir, and was a proud member and advocate for the LGBTQ community as well as an ordained minister who proudly officiated over the marriage of many of his friends. He and his husband campaigned tirelessly for the gay marriage rights in New York and lovingly exchanged their vows as soon as the Marriage Equality Act was enacted.

John was a cultivator of relationships, a tireless advocate for the less fortunate and downtrodden, and an unceasing giver of love, empathy, and humanity. He prided himself on being of service to others and selflessly chose service over self. He was a man of good character and humility and had an amazing sense of humor; he made us all laugh. His character superseded his kindness.

John is cherished and loved by his surviving family. He is survived by his husband, Ill Park; mother, Nancy Oxner; father, Fred H. Oxner and stepmother Donna Oxner; brother, Brian Oxner and his wife Paulette Oxner; sister, Donna Oxner Lefebvre and her husband Anthony J. Lefebvre; sister, Deborah Oxner Brooks and her husband Everett Hope Brooks III, and his nieces Cynthia Lefebvre, Danielle Lefebvre, Halley Brooks and Micah Oxner and his nephews Asa Latham and Berry Brooks.

A funeral is scheduled for Friday, May 19, 2017, from 5:00 pm -7:00 pm at Silas F. Richardson & Son Funeral Home, 106 West Street, Leominster, MA. All are welcome to attend and celebrate John's life. In lieu of flowers, the family is requesting donations to the ASPCA in his name.


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Matt Mattingly
   Posted Wed May 17, 2017
Dear John, I met you while in college and you were a challenging bright spot in my life. We enjoyed many laughs and perhaps some of the best discussions I had on campus were with you. You weren't afraid to tell it like it was. I am sorry we didn't get have you come to Maine for a visit as we talked about. May you have found the peace you so deserve. You are missed. Matt

Matt Hall
   Posted Wed May 17, 2017
I knew John in Cincinnati in the 90s. He was a wonderful, kind, and sincere man. He seemed almost too good and kind for this sometimes wicked world. I'm very sorry he is no longer with us. My thoughts are with his husband and the rest of his family.

Chris MacDonald
   Posted Wed May 17, 2017
To John and family,

My sincerest condolences. I had the utmost pleasure of being colleagues with John a few years back as part of the Bose NY Metro team. John was a spark, to say the least. As many people have said before he was never afraid to tell it like it was. He captivated and commanded his audiences, whether it was an individual or a function room packed with people. You will be greatly missed. Rest in peace, good sir.


Brian Surette
   Posted Wed May 17, 2017
John, you were a very special person and I am glad that I was able to be part of your life during your years working at Bose. You will be missed by so many people who loved you. My condolences to your husband and family. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this very difficult time.

Gail Mason
   Posted Wed May 17, 2017
I worked with John in Cincinnati at First nation/ Cincinnati/Star Bank for several years. John was always bright, funny, sincere, and an optimist. His passing is tragic at such a young age and hurts my heart. His sense of humor and spirit will live on in my memories. God rest his soul and grant him peace.

john siequist
   Posted Wed May 17, 2017
Dear Nancy, Donna and family

I was deeply saddened to learn of John's passing. I wish I knew what to say but the words are just not there. John is in my prayers.

Stephen Romano
   Posted Wed May 17, 2017
Dear John,

You were an inspiration to so many. Your positivity, and ability to listen provided guidance and strength to all of us. You truly touched so many lives and brought out the best in us. I wish you the peace you deserve. You will be missed however your inspiration and passion will live on for countless others. We are grateful for your friendship. God Bless you.

Kathy Scent
   Posted Wed May 17, 2017
Dearest John,

You were such an amazing person all the way around. I admired you for your passion, warm heart, sense of humor, drive to do what's right and most of all the wisdom you shared with everyone you touched. You will be truly missed my friend and I will always cherish my memories and many conversations we had together. Thank you for being in my life! My sincere sympathies go out to your family and Ill
Kathy Scent

Mike Cohn
   Posted Wed May 17, 2017
John, you were a great teacher and Bose friend. I am better for having known you for so many years..Ypur smile, personality and attitude will be greatly missed--mike

Jack Wiggin
   Posted Thu May 18, 2017


Sent with sincere sympathy for your loss and our love and respect for John. From all of us at Heartland that had the privilege to work so close with him. He is and will always be the best. Angela, Maryam, Jen, Taylor, Jill, Phyllis, Kathy, Julie, Janna, Sabrina, Jack and all the doctors, team members and administrators in the Oxner Region.

   Posted Thu May 18, 2017
So sorry for your lost. I meet John almost a year ago, and I knew that he was gonna be my go to man. He got me. He was the sweetest person. He will be surely missed. I raise my hand to give you a clap.....thank you. Tina H.

Kris Scotto
   Posted Fri May 19, 2017
One of the best...
Professional and personable, I will always regard John as one of the greatest presenters.
We had the pleasure of working together many times during the years and I will always remember John's distinctive voice and how it captured your attention...narrator-like and exceptional.
We will miss him dearly and need to keep his spirit in our lives by doing good things for other people as he demonstrated in his own life.

Kris Scott
   Posted Fri May 19, 2017


John, You will always in our hearts, thoughts and prayers. Kris Scotto and PC Richard & Son

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